I’m not a huge fan of mindless rituals. You know what I mean—the stuff we do on the holidays because it’s, ahem, the stuff we’ve always done on the holidays. It becomes tradition, and because Grandpa JoJo once did it, and his daddy once did it, and his daddy’s daddy once did it—well, we do it, too. Even if we have no idea why.
That’s why, a bunch of years ago, I invented my own ritual—the GREATEST FRIGGIN’ HOLIDAY RITUAL EVER!!!!
Here’s how it works:
A. People send me holiday cards featuring photographs of their family members and some generic well wish (Happy Holidays! … Merry New Year! … whatever).
B. I (or the wife) hang the cards up in our kitchen until, oh, January 4.
C. The cards are taken down and placed on a shelf for one year.
D. Come the ensuing holiday season, I remove the cards from the shelf, flip the cards over and write notes that makes absolutely no sense, directed to a person who doesn’t know the original sender.
E. I place the card in an envelope and stick it in the mail.
I’m not merely a practitioner—I’m an addict. Like crack or cocaine. I excitedly wait to receive holiday cards, envisioning who’ll receive the re-direct. My kids have gotten into the act, too, wondering which classmates will receive mystery cards from random people. The greatness of this is that it teaches an important life comedic lesson: One doesn’t have to be present to enjoy the punch-line.
For example, my wife’s grandma lives in Florida. She’s lovely and smart and very good to me. Hence, I sent her this card earlier today:
My greatest ritual triumph came three years ago. We were at a friend’s house, and his holiday cards were piled on a table. I looked through them, and spotted one of a couple with their dog. “Can I have this?” I said.
“Uh, sure,” he replied. “Why?”
“I’m gonna send it to my sister in law,” I said.
That night, I placed the card in an envelope and had someone else write Leah’s address on the envelope. I stuck a stamp, dropped it in the slot—and sorta forgot about it.
One week later, we’re on our annual family ski trip. It’s cold as hell, and I’m miserable. “The weirdest thing happened to me,” she says.
I perk up.
“I got this card in the mail, from Jim and Julie Stanley. I have no idea who these people are. I Googled them, I looked through my contacts. It’s them with a dog. They wrote something about ‘Hope to see me soon …’”
The wife is sitting next to me. She is bursting at the seams. She r-e-a-l-l-y wants to laugh. I nudge her in the ribs.
“That’s so weird …” I say.
“I know,” she said. “I’m losing my mind here. Who are these people.”
Eventually, against my will, the wife tells her.
Anyhow, I invite all jeffpearlman.com readers to embrace the holidays and join me in the ritualistic redistribution of cards. Trust me—it’s awesome.