Spencer Dunkley battles Louisiville’s Clifford Rozier two decades ago.

This week marks the 20th anniversary of Delaware losing to Louisville in the first round of the NCAA Tournament. It was a huge day for me. I was a college journalist at the time, covering the game for the student newspaper. Though the Hens trailed by 18, they cut the lead to six toward the end. It was an excellent effort.

In memory of that team, I wrote a Facebook post a few days ago, accompanied by pictures of some clips from the ol’ paper. A friend of mine wrote a somewhat snarky comment about Spencer Dunkley, the team’s center, not playing especially well.

Dunkley responded by making fun of the “pussy” of the poster’s wife.

This is where things got weird. I told Dunkley I found his words to be beyond inappropriate. Spencer and I aren’t friends, but we’re Facebook friends, and I’ve dropped his (unique) name a couple of times in Sports Illustrated pieces.

I wrote this:

I’ve been a supporter over the years. I’ve dropped your name in SI multiple times, wrote a small thing when your son was born. But this really, really disgusted me.

Spencer, are you 12, talking about a man’s wife’s vagina because he tossed out a stupid basketball insult? Really?

You should strive for better.

Respectfully,

Jeff

He responded with this:

Jeff you my man. basketball is my wife

When I was 12 I would have whoop his ass.
I wrote this:
For insulting you about a basketball game from TWENTY years ago? Who cares. Seriously, Spencer. I get called shit all the time. All the time.
He wrote this:
You dont understand. You dont get it. You can write about it, but you dont get it.
I wrote this:
I get that what you wrote was immature, pathetic and without dignity; I get that there’s a right way to handle something and a wrong way; I get that you have a daughter, and if someone spoke of her the way you spoke of this man’s wife, you’d be furious.
He wrote this:
When you talk shit, write shit about athletes you open yourself up for a ass whoopin, mama cracks, wife cracks, tell your bitchass boyfriend keep my name out his mouth and he wont get his little feeling hurt. He does not know me. You will never get it. Your a writer im a warrior.
When you talk shit, write shit about athletes you open yourself up for a ass whoopin, mama cracks, wife cracks, tell your bitchass boyfriend keep my name out his mouth and he wont get his little feeling hurt. He does not know me. You will never get it. Your a writer im a warrior.

When you talk shit, write shit about athletes you open yourself up for a ass whoopin, mama cracks, wife cracks, tell your bitchass boyfriend keep my name out his mouth and he wont get his little feeling hurt. He does not know me. You will never get it. Your a writer im a warrior.

When you talk shit, write shit about athletes you open yourself up for a ass whoopin, mama cracks, wife cracks, tell your bitchass boyfriend keep my name out his mouth and he wont get his little feeling hurt. He does not know me. You will never get it. Your a writer im a warrior.

If my daughters man was talking shit and they ceacked on her. I would tell him shut the fuck up. Its all fun and games till the dog bites back.
And now, by my choice, we’re no longer Facebook friends.
Eh, go Blue Hens!
10 Comments
  • Stephanie Smith

    Dude why bother? You cannot change that type of mentality lol.

    March 22, 2013at7:16 am Reply
  • Casey

    Playing 1AA twenty years ago doesn’t make you an “athlete” for life and besides that what an embarrassment, life surely hasn’t gone his way

    March 22, 2013at1:36 pm Reply
    • Jeffrey Spellmen

      For you to say that really makes you sound ignorant. Soencer dunkley played the sport he loved around the world and did get payed abundantly (After College). When you come at another athletes skill on a game that hey worked so hard for it hurts alot. And for you guys to comment things saying this was he highlight of his life it was it was just the Begening of his very successfull career. You think Jeff you would know this.

      June 24, 2013at3:28 pm Reply
  • Asherdan

    No saving Spencer on this but did you lay anything down on the guy being a snarky ass? Or is that just A-OK?

    March 22, 2013at1:55 pm Reply
  • Byron

    I’m not saying that Spencer was right, but your buddy started the situation.

    Put yourself in Spencer’s shoes, say you were connected to someone on FB and saw that a friend of a friend wrote something about you regarding a thing you did 20 years ago. A thing, a may add, that’s actually a pinnacle of achievement.

    Spencer didn’t cover himself in glory on this one, but your friend sounds like a real jerk.

    March 22, 2013at2:06 pm Reply
  • Josh

    I don’t know what the initial comment was that irked Dunkley, but I don’t have much sympathy for the poster who had his wife indirectly insulted.

    In this era of Facebook and Message Boards, anyone gets to be the self-styled “analyst” who takes sarcastic, biting snipes at whatever athlete/celeb they want, just like whatever Jay Mariotti-like asshole they worship on P.T.I. The difference is that they get to do it with essentially total anonymity and zero consequences.

    Dunkley probably has a regular job these days in which he works 40 hours per week, and I’d guess that Louisville game was one of the two or three peak moments of his life. To happen to see some guy on Facebook make some unprovoked snide remark about his performance in that game would certainly piss him off. He could’ve been more tactful, but I don’t have much sympathy for the friend who thought he was going to entertain the Cyber Crowd with his biting wit and got called out for it by the butt of the joke.

    March 22, 2013at3:25 pm Reply
  • Asherdan

    Another thought…

    Jeff makes a connection to how he gets smacked on all the time and Dunkley should just cope. Thing is, Jeff has chosen to place himself in the arena, the only reason Dunkely is out in public (and thus a target for barbs) is because Jeff drug his butt out there. The guy’s been out of pro sports for a decade and is a HS coach.

    This is your fault, Jeff, for trying to do dude a dubious favour. Bet you won’t do that again.

    March 22, 2013at4:27 pm Reply
  • Duncan Idaho

    Obviously the dude needs to grow up, and his comments are just silly.

    But Jeff, why did you feel the need to call him out? You’re just another random guy on his Facebook page, not his parent or teacher or someone in a position to teach him right from wrong.

    March 22, 2013at4:54 pm Reply
  • The Mighty Quinn

    Spencer Dunkley went to a pretty good school…

    And it seems he learned nothing of any value.

    March 23, 2013at3:26 am Reply
  • K

    “I’ve dropped your name in SI multiple times, wrote a small thing when your son was born.”

    Yep, I’m shocked that didn’t make him come to his senses.

    Humblebrag much?

    March 26, 2013at5:47 am Reply
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