Gay Pride Day


Today is Gay Pride Day across America.

In its honor, I urge any parents or friends or family members who have rejected someone who is gay to wake the hell up. Being gay isn’t a choice—it’s who you are. And gays and lesbians should be embraced and loved and respected in the same exact way all others are. Enough of this, “What if gays do [FILL IN THE BLANK]?” Enough.

If you go to the gym and shower in the locker room, odds are you’ve been naked in front of a gay person. Did you survive?

If you’re a member of the armed forces, odds are you’ve gone to battle (if you’ve served in action) with a gay person. Did it impact your ability to fight?

If you’re human, odds are you’ve got someone gay close to you. He/she is there, hurting, wanting to come out of the closet, but scared/worried/concerned about the reaction. He/she wants to be himself/herself, but still—even in 2010—worries about the impact and aftermath. When I was a student at Delaware, a classmate actually came out to me at a party. We were standing in a hallway and he said, “You probably don’t know this, but I’m gay.” Truth be told, I did know. But the courage blew me away, and inspired me. He wanted people to know because he wanted to be himself. Really, we all want to be ourselves, don’t we?

I’m sick of the bigotry, and I’m thrilled that—at long last—it seems to be fading away. The “Gay teachers are dangerous” movement barely exists anymore, and those who oppose gay adoptions merely sound like dinosaurs from another era (and cruel ones. Really, you’re opposed to gay adoption? You’d prefer these kids remain in foster homes, even when loving gay couples await? Really?). It’s all but inevitable now that gays will serve openly in the military, and the Catholic Church continues to deem itself obsolete with its blather of “homosexuals living in sin.” As for the GOP’s warnings of a so-called “homosexual agenda” from a few years ago? A d-e-a-d battle cry. D-e-a-d.

Why are times changing? Because the greatest weapon in the war over our culture is exposure. As more people know gays; as more relatives comes out; as more crazy right political leaders show their true moral character, we are able to see that gay people are, first and foremost, people. When I was a kid, we tossed around the words “fag” and “queer” with reckless, angry disdain. Now, I wouldn’t think of using them. Would you?

So embrace the day. Take pride in it. Because the gay rights movement of 2010 is a strong one, and those standing in its way have run out of ammo.

21 thoughts on “Gay Pride Day”

  1. nothing against gays.
    live your life.

    but why does there have to be a day?
    why does there have to be a parade?
    why do they have to throw it in everyone’s face?
    why do they think anyone cares?

  2. Muhammad Goldstein

    [1] Chris..are you joking? People DO CARE! Gays & Lesbians are not allowed to marry in most parts of the US, they often can’t have joint insurance policies, often cannot adopt, etc etc etc.

  3. “but why does there have to be a day?
    why does there have to be a parade?
    why do they have to throw it in everyone’s face?
    why do they think anyone cares?”

    Oh boy.

    1. Because they need to raise awareness in order to be embraced and accepted.
    2. Because they need to raise awareness in order to be embraced and accepted.
    3. I’m sorry, did a gay pride float crash into your living room?
    4. Because clearly you do, they’re throwing it in your face!

  4. Agree that being gay is not a choice or that hating people for their sexual orientation is sickening.

    That said, I just find it laughable that Pearlman rips folks that are bigots toward homosexuality.

    Yet he spews similar hatred toward people that worship differently than he does, or (heaven forbid) accepts a different political party.

    Hope your kids adopt the ‘do as I say, not as I do’ line you will eventually choke yourself with.

    1. PS, I find this odd. A. I spew no hatred toward Christians—I spew anger/venom to those who practice a certain brand of missionary work. Huge difference. Same with politics. It’s not anti-Republicanism. It’s anti-bigoted acts practiced by those of the party.

  5. PS, I find this odd. A. I spew no hatred toward Christians—I spew anger/venom to those who practice a certain brand of missionary work. Huge difference. Same with politics. It’s not anti-Republicanism. It’s anti-bigoted acts practiced by those of the party.


    Once again you move the goalposts as you see fit.

    Vague with your opinions of “certain brand of missionary work”.

    Yet you find it “odd”. Sure you do.

  6. chris…until gays are treated as equal citizens there will be gay pride days and parades and floats. It’s just like any other movement in our country’s past.

    PS, you clearly have a reading comprehension disorder.

  7. PS, I can appreciate the narrowness of your thinking, in that it’s not unusual. There are certain behaviors that are, unambiguously, detestable. For example, going into poor parts of the world trying to convince people that God and Jesus will eradicate their misery. Or convincing the world gays are evil. There’s no real logical debate. So, again, do I hate Republicans and Christians? No, because most don’t follow such practices. But those who do, I have little use for.

  8. PS does have a point about you moving the goalposts Jeff.

    But I largely agree with your original message. This is an important issue and probably the most important social issue of the day. It is a group being denied the rights of every other group in society. We’ve done that before in this country and here we are doing it again. Frankly, gay people have a right to be extremely pissed about their not being able to marry and we’re all fortunate that their anger might manifest itself in a parade rather than a riot. Chris, are you bashing a group for doing the opposite of a violent protest?

  9. You did move the goal posts a bit, Jeff.

    Last week you wrote a post saying that religion was responsible for war, child molestation, racial and sexual intolerance.

    You were using a pretty broad brush to make your point there. And while you may have said it more eloquently than Chris did, it’s kind of the same type of thinking.

  10. Steve-
    like it or not, there are people in this country who hate gays and always will.

    you can have 3 parades a week for 10 years and you’re never going to change their minds.

    (substitute blacks, whites, mexicans, lawyers, cops for gays…..same result.)

  11. Gay people are born that way. Republicans and Christians *choose* their beliefs. That’s the difference.

    If I walked around trying to tell everyone that John Lennon was the Messiah, would you or would you not think I’m nuts? You would. And you should. But take that same idiotic idea, attatch it to an itinerant carpenter who lived two millenia ago, and trump it up with 2000 years of governmental meddling, violence, and marketing…and all of a sudden to oppose said idiocy is “bigotry” on the lines of persecuting people because of who their brain chemistry tells them to fuck????

    Uh, no.

  12. but if we are going to all agree that gay people were born that way, and had no say in the matter, what exactly are they all so proud of?
    I am not impugning their right to get together and to foster a community, or even their rights to get married. I am simply asking why should anyone be “proud” of something that they had absolutely no control over?

  13. Antonio D'Arcangelis

    “you can have 3 parades a week for 10 years and you’re never going to change their minds.”

    This is a fallacy. Over time, attitudes change. Sure, there are some people who are tough to reach when it comes to the issues of tolerance and acceptance, but they’re not totally unreachable.

    Example: Look at the HUGE difference in how veterans of wars in Iraq and Afghanistan are being treated, compared to how Vietnam vets were treated following that debacle. While there wasn’t unanimous support in either situation, even folks who oppose our military action both accept and tolerate the sacrifice soldiers are making.

    Before the Civil Rights Act was passed less than 50 years ago, we had segregation throughout large tracts of our country. We still have racism, but things have come a long way. We have an African-American president.

    It’s pretty simple, Chris. The LGBT community holds parades to show everyone that they’re not ashamed of who they are — that being LGBT isn’t a crime against nature, nor wrong in any way, and that there are people in all walks of life, of all genders and races, that support who they are. Just as the flag-waving American is proud to express his love for his country and appreciation for those who protect it (whether it be today or on July 4th, Memorial Day or Veterans Day) the LGBT community, as well as their friends and families, are proud to show their support for the people they love and appreciate.

  14. Antonio D'Arcangelis

    @ Brian McDowell

    Because despite the opposition they encounter from so many people, despite the fact that it might be EASIER to pretend they are something they’re not (like so many people do, e.g. Larry Craig, Ted Haggard) they bravely be themselves. In the Western world, we tell kids all the time to “be yourself,” but so-called Christians often vilify gays and lesbians for doing just that. We praise solidarity among all kinds of groups — religious groups, nationalities, workers, peaceful protesters, even sports fans — so what’s so crazy about gays and lesbians standing together and marching like the Irish do on St. Patrick’s Day? by your reasoning, they shouldn’t have a parade because they didn’t CHOOSE to be Irish. Do you see my point?

  15. Antonio: St Paddy’s day parades are a *perfect* counterexample.

    Actually, just about any parade is, with the possible exception of a Memorial Day type parade where the marchers are Veterans.

    Hell, what about the 4th of July? Parades, fireworks, et al…to be “proud” to be American? It’s the same thing! As the late great Bill Hicks once said, “Er, just because two people who happened to be citizens of the USA fucked, and created me in the process, I should be “proud”? Yeah. OK. I guess.” But nobody questions *that*.

  16. Just to clarify, Frankie, even though I’m a patriotic person, I’m not a big fan of the phraseology of “proud to be an American” or “proud to be Irish” either. I think “glad to be an American” would sum up my feelings more actually, as I’m sure some gay people are “glad” to be able to live openly gay. And I never said they shouldn’t have their parades. They have the same rights to congergate as anyone else does. I just think “pride” should be based on accomplishments. Licking a penis or a vagina on a regular basis, to me, doesn’t qualify.
    Maybe, it should be changed to “We’re Glad To Be Gay Day.”

  17. Brian…you said:

    “hey have the same rights to congergate as anyone else does.”

    But, that’s just it, they don’t have the same rights.

    Why are so many athletes, actors and politicians afraid to come out disclose that they are gay? Why is it so many have denied being gay before coming out or being outed?

    My brother is gay. I’m damn proud of him for telling us (his family) he is gay. Why? Because he faces a lot of adversity on a daily basis.

    He lives in LA. He works for a major animation studio. He works with many, many people that are gay, yet they have to keep it to themselves.

    I remember back before he came out. He used to come to family functions with his female friends. He’d give the impression that they were dating. Funny thing though, we all knew long before he told us.

    We all had nicknames growing up. My oldest brother was Butch, because he used to beat up the rest of us. Mine was Mad Dog because I had a bit of a temper. My sister, she was Bitch…you can figure that one out.

    My brother, his nickname was Suzie Homemaker.

    Like me and my oldest brother he played all the sports, football, baseball, basketball. He was the quarterback of our little league football team (it was the worst year we had in some time, but still…).

    He wasn’t nurtured into being gay. Hell, even my sister was a Tom Boy. We were raised tough. How he got into show tunes I’ll never know.

    The point is when you can’t be yourself because of a fear of losing your job or being treated differently there’s a problem. That’s why there’s Gay Pride. That’s a gay person not afraid of the repercussions. That’s a gay person willing to fight for equality, regardless of what might happen.

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