I belong to the United Nations of families. Hasn’t always been the case—as a kid, we were small, white and 100% Jewish. Boring times.

Now, things have changed. I have two nephews who I love like my own children. They’re bi-racial. My first cousin (who I’m very close with—he’s a great guy; four years my junior and one of my favorite people in the world) is married to a Korean woman. They have two kids—a 3-year-old boy named Abraham, and a girl, Soon, who was just born yesterday.

I love the richness of my family’s diversity. L-o-v-e it. I imagine people who’ve always had such an environment might not appreciate things, but the wife and I sure do. It’s America 2010. At least it’s what America 2010 looks like in the thinking person’s guide to the United States (ie: People who don’t share the xenophobic irrationality of too many so-called patriots). I don’t want an all-white country, an all-white town or an all-white family. I want an influx of cuisines and accents and experiences.

As I noted, Soon was born yesterday. Her name is, officially, Soon Min Pearlman, a regal ID that speaks to both sides of her background. I think it’s one of the great names of all time. Two weeks ago, Soon’s grandmother, also named Soon Min, died after a lengthy and unspeakably courageous battle with cancer. She was a remarkable woman who sacrificed everything for her two children; who was blessed with wonderful values and an enormous heart. My cousin told me Soon, the grandmother, didn’t want the daughter named after her, because she might feel lassoed by a strange moniker.

I’m glad they ignored her.

It’s magical.

4 thoughts on “Soon”

  1. Nice, and congratulations to your cousin and his spouse, Jeff.

    True story: I grew up outside a village of 1,000 people. My sister’s spouse is from Jordan. A guy who lived next door to us just got married; his bride was born in the former USSR.

    What were the odds of that?

  2. So I saw the juxtaposition of your name and this photo and for a semisecond thought to myself, How did I get to be FB friends with Itzhak Perlman?

    Mazel tov and chukha hae, nuncle!

  3. Bravo. I’m biracial, and I love that my three children (black, Irish, French-Canadian, Japanese) are a part of so many different cultures.

    If you’re looking for a great gift for Soon and her parents, check out Kip Fulbeck’s latest book, “Mixed.” It’s a collection of photographs of biracial and multiracial kids, and it’s a beautiful thing. (Oh, and my daughter Alison’s in the book!)

  4. I feel real sympathy for those who don’t recognize the beauty of diversity. Congratulations on your family’s newest member, and thank you for sharing your joy.

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