God, I am angry

Earlier today I received word that a cousin of a friend died of COVID.

He was in his mid-60s, and—by the accounts I’ve heard—a decent and good man.

The story behind the story makes my blood boil. The man and his wife hosted Thanksgiving for a small number of relatives. Which—it goes without saying—wasn’t good judgement.

A handful of people attended. One was the man’s sister, who had a cold but insisted it couldn’t be COVID—because she didn’t (and apparently doesn’t) believe COVID is a thing. As my friend wrote in a Facebook DM: “His sister didn’t believe in COVID. She’s been going to large gatherings of maskless people. She believed, and may still believe, that COVID is a hoax. She believes that COVID is a conspiracy by hospitals to make more money. She believes that it’s no worse than the flu. She believes that it has a 99.5% survival rate. She believes that masks don’t protect people from getting COVID because it isn’t real.”

Thanksgiving came. Thanksgiving went. Everyone who attended the gathering wound up sick with COVID. Writes my friend: “They all spent days unable to do anything but they recovered, however, they’re all still feeling effects and will for some time. He was the only one who went to the hospital. He was there for about a week before being put on a ventilator. He never got better.”

I don’t know how the sister is feeling right now. Apparently no one in the family is speaking with her. And, maybe, she’s remorseful and contrite. Maybe she feels as if this is all her fault, and she’s devastated.

But, because it’s 2020, the most likely scenario is she’s convinced her brother had already been sick. Or she’s convinced the family is blaming her because they’re all on the side of Joe Biden and Bill Barr. Or she’s making Christmas plans as we speak—”I’ll bring the turkey and fruit cake.”

It’s so friggin’ infuriating. And bleak.

“People are dying and families will never be the same again,” my friend wrote. “I know ours won’t be.”

5 thoughts on “God, I am angry”

  1. This is terrible and I sympathize with this senseless loss of a seemingly good person.


    They all should have stayed home. Yes, the sister was foolish to show up not feeling well.


    There never should have been a gathering.


    I’m sorry people got sick and one of them died. Please stay home, compared to what we’ve gone through already…it’s only for a little longer.

  2. Each person is responsible for his or her own well being. Not the government. It is not trump’s fault or Biden’s fault. Geez Louise. If a family member dies in a car accident, is it Trump’s fault for not lowering all speed limits to 10 mph? Take some personal responsibility, people. And, Peter King, same to you for linking this story. You’re great at sports, but please stay in that lane.

  3. So sad to read on many fronts. My wife, age 68 and myself, age 69 have been very diligent since covid. There have been times our only child, a daughter, has made us feel guilty because we won’t travel 900 miles to see them or allow them to visit us. What makes this harder for us, is she and her husband don’t believe in the seriousness of covid and think we are way overly concerned about covid. They also are convinced that the majority of covid deaths reported are not covid related at all. I’m not upset at her at all for her beliefs but I’m so ashamed that WE failed to raise a daughter who lacks the ability to really understand ours and other’s concerns regarding this pandemic and also the compassion for all who have suffered so needlessly because of others irresponsible actions.

  4. This is a terrible story, Jeff. So sorry for the family’s loss. No doubt there has been too many stories like this to even mention. So sad and unnecessary. Again, thank you for sharing.

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